[pinkkay81]

In my experience, everyone that comments is just doing so to feel better about themselves. If they voice concern, they’re gaining a reputation of being “a good friend” who’s “always there for you.” It’s all for their own ego.
In reality, they won’t be. People say they want to support you, but they won’t be there when you need it. EDs are a solo sport.

That part.

 

[pinkkay81]

It’s validating that I am getting results, even though most days it feels like I’m not. On the flip side, I hate people pointing attention to it because then I feel seen and judged, and I hate that.

 

[IsabelVV]

at this point, it mostly just gives me the acknowledgement that my ED is valid. I met a guy last weekend who was literally a GP, and when we were in bed together he said ''you're amazingly beautiful, but you are quite thin'' and then we had a long ass conversation about my ED and he so carefully explained that (as he obviously sees a lot of different bodies throughout the day) people who are maybe my weight naturally look differently, in a way where on me it looks ''unnatural'', and how as a woman he could tell I was ''missing some fat tissue in certain places where there should be more fat tissue''.
All this may sound creepy or weird but it was the acknowledgement I so desperately needed that it's not all in my head, that I am ''sick enough'' to get more help. It was eye-opening, even though it's not necessarily new info, especially as doctors/therapists not taking me seriously is one of my biggest triggers.

Lots of people comment on it because everybody can clearly tell I drastically changed in less than a year, but it doesn't make me feel good. It always just confronts me with the fact that whoohoo I am now skinny but I literally... lost my entire life and will to live in return. Besides that the being skinny feels ugly-skinny 90% of the time because apparently it's very much visible that my skinnyness looks unnatural.

You literally cannot win.

 

[mylastbeauty]

Yeah, they comment mostly on my flat stomach (because I love wearing cropped tops).
I feel great lol

 

[Kittybunny123]

I just don't appreciate how some family members are worrying about you losing weight and it's not even that noticeable, no one else says anything but family always worry too much, maybe that's why i feel really bad about everything, i make them worried without wanting to

 

[stonescold]

yeah all the time especially at my job since I work retail. I don’t mind compliments but people say weird shit and feel compelled to ask how/why I’m so thin. It’s super uncomfortable and when people are overly nosy about it I just want to look them dead in the eyes and tell them I’m anorexic lmao

 

[M998]

A lot. My family and friends always tells me when I’ve gained or lost whether they mean it maliciously. It’s really triggering and not helpful and then makes me paranoid that everyone is significantly so aware of my weight.

I’ve been told by family members I look too gaunt when I’ve lost weight and then friends and family say I look healthier when I’ve gained. Really not helpful I wish they’d just say nothing.

 

[Abi0905]

I commented on this originally in May and said no….

my family and friends definitely do now 😑

 

[cheddar]

My husband tells me often that I’m tiny or super skinny. (I know he mostly does it because he knows I like it). I don’t think he’s lying, just being overly nice lol. He knows about my ED.

I don’t get comments often because I have no friends/coworkers but at family events I get lots of comments. Like I got so many comments at my wedding but they made me feel awkward instead of happy. Like I was the odd one out. Like it’s nice to be called thin or tiny but I also kinda feel like people are lying to me about it(?). I feel like they’re blind, not actually being untruthful.

I feel like it also depends on the people commenting. I don’t think thin people would call me skinny. But heavier people probably would because of perception

 

[fryingpan]

Used to make me genuinely mad, idk. And I was never actually thin, I just lost weight in uni from genuinely not having the money to eat + depression.
I even told them that the reason I lost weight was because of literal poverty, and my mum just said she was glad I was back home to eat her cooking but that I should be careful not to gain the weight back. CUE, being introduced to a fucking eating disorder.
Comments on my weight actually trigger me now. Not in an anger way but a cynical fuck this world I should just die way. I hate that my weight is being perceived, I hate that I care so much, I hate that people genuinely treat you different based on being fat or thin. I didn't think that was real, but it is, it really is. Even my family who I know love me, but they treat me different.

 

[Softersoftest_]

Yeah. Lost weight rapidly and everyone is trying to make me eat and buying me food. I’m not even at an unhealthy bmi though 🙃 worried about how people will act when I’m at my gw.
Anyways it also makes me happy ofc but I hate when they try to make me eat. One narcissistic (or disordered) side of me thinks it’s because they’re jealous of my weight loss and wants me to get fat lol

 

[Kittybunny123]

Sometimes i want to tell them to shut up...

 

[HiddenSkies]

Yesterday had my MIL tell me I'm "too thin" and that I don't need to lose anymore weight. I've been avoiding her all this time for this exact reason. She's eating disordered herself and picks up on it fast.

Felt very exposed.

 

[mjayb]

When i was an athlete and lean, i loved it, when im actively eating disordered- depends. I was trying to hide my current relapse and a friend noticed and it was pretty uncomfortable- then starts the ‘im worried’ conversations and i thought i wanted the concern and worry, but now I’ve got it im like really not into it at all. A second conversation took place on Friday that was awful. Non eating disordered people trying to talk sense into eating disordered people is not a vibe. I will be avoiding or shutting down any more attempts at conversation, for sure.

 

[panicateverysocialevent]

i hate it
i’ve come to the conclusion for me it isn’t about wanting others to think i look thin it’s about not wanting others to notice or perceive how i look (amongst other stuff) so any comment on my body and i hate it
also it’s often people who know about my ed and then i feel guilty cos ik it affects them too

 

[Gumb49]

At my lw or any weight I don't appreciate someone commenting on my body. I find it rude, especially if we aren't close.

 

[Amelia_Ellie]

My parents all the time. At my lw my friends did too. Once even a stranger walking down the street.

 

[dainty~thin]

The skinniest girl in my class (I have suspicions about her having an ED based on statements she's made concerning her body and circulation (who comments on their circulatory system for no reason? I don't know. Exactly.)) Anyways, she told me, today, that I was tiny too (as in, like her) because we had to take lift our shirts up for practice placing a 12 lead, and it just be living in my head rent free in the best way possible.

In summary: the comments about me being thin are good, good shit

 

[moonlit_lilac]

I either get imposter syndrome/think they're gaslighting me (at least, when people used to be concerned, aka just my parents who told me I "needed more fat on me" ewww blehhhh and a few suspicious friends who would ask if I was ok) OR get a high off of it and realize people are actually concerned about me. Which is also painful because I don't like being perceived unless I want to be, if that makes sense. I want to be invisible unless I actually want some social contact lol.

I haven't had strangers comment on me ever. I think that would just be weird and disgusting...
It's my dream though (terrible, I know...) that one day people (very close people) will actually be begging me to gain and be concerned about my actual survival. I plan to recover at that point, but who knows what this ED will do to me, sigh

 

[FruitLoops]

Nah, no one's going to comment on me because I'm not skinny enough yet. Probably just as well because I'm awkward as heck with comments/compliments etc