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I was clearly overweight before so at first it was all compliments and telling me how good I looked. I shrugged them off. Now it's getting preachy. "You don't need to lose any more weight! You're getting too thin"
My mom noticed the other day because I was wearing a pair of jeans she gifted me and they were all saggy. They fit me perfectly when she gave them to me. Then my little brother playfully grabbed my waist cinching in my oversized clothes and saying "look, she's small!" That made me so happy.

They're starting to get worried which is annoying. I'm finally not fat and getting thinner every week. All my clothes are too big. I missed this.
 
when we had first aid training at work, the instructor used me for a demonstration in front of everyone. i honestly don't even remember what it was properly but it was some sort of thing that went around my torso. she was going to put the adult size one on me but then said "wait, I think you might actually be able to fit into the child size one!" and for some reason everyone watched as she tried to get the child size one around me. it fit and everyone made a fuss and found it funny?? i was so humiliated🗿
 
I can relate to being obese as a child. I was always one of the biggest kids out of everyone else my age. This only changed in April because that was when I started calorie counting. People have said that I look thinner and stuff, one that stuck with me was my brother saying that I was thin though, I don't know why, but it did.
 
i HATE when people comment on my body. makes me irritated and makes me think every time i am around them that they’re hyper aware of my body. which makes me feel more hyper aware. also they usually have a way of projecting their insecurities so i guess i just feel that energy when the comment is made and feel like i have to compensate by covering up my arms or whatever
 
usually (before relapsing) i would find it quite flattering, if a bit embarrassing, because i have no idea how to answer when someone compliments me lol. also i have bdd so i can’t even see it, but my body naturally stays in the bmi 17s with healthy non-restrictive eating and ig that’s skinny for other people (to me it’s not, it’s my normal).
now idk, it bothers me because i know i’m approaching a low bmi and people comment on my body means i don’t look clearly anorexic yet. it’s all very confusing.
 
most of the time i don't really want to be perceived so comments on me or my body are not appreciated lol. on the rare occasion i do it depends on what is being said and who says it. usually it's embarrassing but validating
 
No one really talked about it when I was super skinny, but now that I’ve gained and am a normal weight people constantly comment “how do you stay so skinny” just bc I’m a manager at a restaurant like girlie how can you feel so comfortable commenting on someone’s body.

Makes me feel like they’re making fun of me because I know Im not that skinny anymore
 
In my case it's a friend I see and every time she comments on my weight. I think she used to have an ED years before as she dropped hints in the past that she was a 'failed bulimic' (I think she probably had binge eating disorder). She's a bit fat but not huge/noticeably. I always catch her looking at my legs or my stomach. Last time she said she was glad to see I was no longer too skinny and that I was looking 'healthy' and 'nicely slim' this time. I wanted to die, she might as well have said 'you got fat'. Then the time before that she was saying 'your arms are good but otherwise you are too skinny.' I should tell her not to comment on my weight, but actually I still want the 'you are too skinny' comments and use it as motivation....
 
lately my mother has been saying that i’m losing weight but i dont believe it, it simply isn’t true.
 
Nope, my close friend gently enquired but other than that, not a word. It kinda reinforces the whole “I can’t be that thin, no one else has noticed my weight loss, I can keep going bc I’m getting away with it” which sounds utterly ridiculous to say but.. that’s how my head spins it 🥲
 
this year ive lost 35lbs and the only people who have commented are my parents, its usually that theyre worried about me rather than compliments. i feel like no one else has noticed even though i went from mid 20 bmi to low 15...

even my boyfriend hardly noticed, i was talking to him about my ed recently and he asked me if i was underweight... which made me feel great (not)
 
Well it’s almost/is winter here and I started a new job so tbh … unless you knew me before either of those two things (winter because you need to bundle up), you wouldn’t know I’ve lost weight.😂🤷‍♀️
 
At my low weight people would comment all the time, it would really piss me off at the time. Now I miss it. I miss the backhanded validation that I got.
 
Everyone in my family is overweight or obese and I think they lowkey hate me because I’m health conscious and a “know it all”. They project their insecurities onto me and make my existence all about them, meanwhile I’m just trying to vibe with my green tea in the corner
 
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