Just wondering, and around what time people started commenting. I was an overweight child until I started doing Karate when I was 8 years old. I was still chubby, but started losing weight from the exercise. My diet was still absolute shit so it didn't make a huge difference until I got to higher belts and was training more intensely and going through puberty. I was 12 when I read Wintergirls as part of assigned reading. Obviously things didn't go too well for the main character, but there was far too much "success" for far too long of the book, and it inspired/triggered me, as well as extreme hazing when starting training for my black belt. At 13, I was 5'8" and 112lbs of pure muscle. I had like no fat on my body at all. Rarely got my period. It's ridiculous how bad my body dysmorphia was in hindsight. I felt so fat all the time, and was eating OMAD whenever possible. The only people who ever commented on my weight was when I went to the doctor and they saw how much weight I had dropped so quickly. Without even seeing me, they diagnosed me with anorexia. This is something that stayed on my charts for years before my mom managed to get them to take it off. I always wonder if my parents knew or not, but I don't want to ask now. At that time I had only one friend, and she was pretty severely underweight. She had a high metabolism and no access to proper nutrition at home, and was going through the same extreme training and hazing I was. I always compared myself to her. Eventually I started opening up to her about my eating habits and overexercising. She screenshotted all my snaps and showed her mom, who then sent them to mine. I managed to convince her pretty shortly that it wasn't an issue anymore, but I was still force fed large portions for a long time. Nobody ever commented on my weight loss or subsequent weight gain other than the doctor that one time. I've had a few minor relapses, but none really stuck. Lost a couple lbs and gained them right back. Then in May 2022 I relapsed and got really serious about it mid-November and I've lost 10 lbs since. I don't notice a huge difference. My stomach looks a bit flatter and I have like no ass now unfortunately (Gotta start going to the gym and building some lean muscle). But somehow people seem to ve noticing this time, and have had no qualms commenting on my weight. On one hand, it feels good to know I'm noticably thinner, but it mostly pisses me off. Why do people notice now? I'm still not even underweight. Im not even at the absolutely low end of a healthy BMI. I'm just "healthy". But suddenly everyone and their mothers have something to say about my body, and they really aren't even compliments. I had the flu REALLY bad for a week and didn't eat. But I started my period and was super bloated and had actually gained a couple lbs over that time. When I got back to work my supervisor said it must have really did a number on me and I look anorexic. It was validating but it pissed me off because it didn't make sense. I was heavier and bigger than I was the last time I worked. Then today someone I was seeing for about a month around October replied to my snapchat story of my outfit today saying "Hate to be that guy but do be careful with diets, you're lookin real slim but nutrition is good". Like the post wasn't even about my body, just the fit. I guess I'm glad people are noticing my weight loss but it's not compliments. It's all just coming in the form of unwarranted comments and advice. I wish at that point people would just keep their mouths shut. I'm not even skinny yet, just average thin, bmi 20.7. I'm supposed to be hanging out platonically with this guy tomorrow and now I don't even want to. He already annoyed me, and it's the unwarranted advice and comments that really just put me over the edge. I just wanna disappear. I also wanted to fast or heavily restrict these next couple days off, but we're getting dinner and no matter what I get it's gonna totally fuck that up. And now I feel pressured to eat a large portion since he's concerned.
Do people comment on your thinness? How does it make you feel?
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All the ladies in my college course keep commenting on my body how thin I am etc (they are all middle aged women, I’m 22). I was eating normal at the start of the course and now I’ve relapsed because of all the comments. It’s triggering when people directly comment on my weight/ body size. My mum told me my legs are like sticks and I genuinely was about to cry because it felt like an attack- I wasn’t restricting at the time it was just my body. I am naturally thin so I get those comments a lot.
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Yes and I don’t mind. What I do mind is the snickers and mean glares and rudeness without saying anything. I’d much rather you say something to me than say something to your friend pretending I don’t notice…
kinda depends. if it's a compliment i love it. i'm not so thin that people are frightened yet.
but since i used to be fat and i lost a lot of weight really quickly, people i know, mostly family members, all comment with the most uncomfortable shit. my aunt asked me, "you've lost so much weight so fast! you do eat, right?" in front of my cousins, who are children. what the hell did she think i was gonna say? "no"? it's just incredibly awkward.
but since i used to be fat and i lost a lot of weight really quickly, people i know, mostly family members, all comment with the most uncomfortable shit. my aunt asked me, "you've lost so much weight so fast! you do eat, right?" in front of my cousins, who are children. what the hell did she think i was gonna say? "no"? it's just incredibly awkward.
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my mom comments on my "thinness" all the time and its like reqarding and annoying at the same time bc ik its leading to like "dont lose anymore weight" type lectures and i mean i get why but she doesbt know i cant just stop lol plus i want to lose more weiggt sooo
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yes. it makes me uncomfortable because i dislike having my weight commented on in general, and also because i've never been congratulated, i've only ever been met with worry or neutrality from people in my life.
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In my experience, everyone that comments is just doing so to feel better about themselves. If they voice concern, they’re gaining a reputation of being “a good friend” who’s “always there for you.” It’s all for their own ego.
In reality, they won’t be. People say they want to support you, but they won’t be there when you need it. EDs are a solo sport.
In reality, they won’t be. People say they want to support you, but they won’t be there when you need it. EDs are a solo sport.
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Recently I got "you look like you never eat" because I was having a snack to keep me going for the next 4 hours until I could eat. I just laughed and brushed it off.
But thank you, I definitely don't eat "enough" 😊
But thank you, I definitely don't eat "enough" 😊
at first it was almost euphoric to hear it from people, now it severely pisses me off and makes me uncomfortable. i'd like for people to just shut up and not comment on it at all. why does my appearance matter to anybody else? last weekend, my boss said to me "when you come back after a month, you better have gained weight" (im out of the city for a month bc of school). and he was talking to other ppl at work about my weight, and honestly it was just too much. im a pushover so i was just standing there smiling like nothing was wrong but like just shut the fuck up thanks.
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My bosses have commented on it, one of them said "you got skinny" like girl 💀💀 bold of you to assume I'm going to 💀 they've said they're jealous and constantly talk about wanting to lose weight and how fat they are. I hate when they comment shit like that, as if I'm not clearly suffering from an ED, it makes me self conscious about my body and my ED
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all the time lol. random customers (i work retail), family, friends, etc.
i hate hate being perceived in any way so i feel extremelyyyyy uncomfortable when people comment on my body/weight (or any other physical aspect tbh)
i hate hate being perceived in any way so i feel extremelyyyyy uncomfortable when people comment on my body/weight (or any other physical aspect tbh)
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I both love it and hate it at the same time
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"You need to eat a cheeseburger"
"Why do you dress like that?" My clothes are baggy from weight fluctuations from my ED.
"You are so tiny you have no boobs"
"You'd look so pretty with weight on you. I can fatten you up"
I don't understand why someone always has something to say...
"Why do you dress like that?" My clothes are baggy from weight fluctuations from my ED.
"You are so tiny you have no boobs"
"You'd look so pretty with weight on you. I can fatten you up"
I don't understand why someone always has something to say...
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i always respond angrily but on the inside im like:🥰
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I enjoy when people acknowledges it, when my mom or aunt say something I feel pure RAGE since they are pretty much the controlling type, esp my aunt, I'm one step away to actually create a situation with those two.
Overall I love when others say something, today the lady in the bakery I always go gave me a donut 🥺🥺, she was so so sweet, like "you need to eat sweets! I'll give you a donut so you can start eating a little more", she made me eat half of it and tbh it was very tasty 😋, sadly I just made that my OMAD :') I'm so sorry bakery lady ily
But yeah, it does not bother me like at all, I love it since my recovery body was HELLISHLY bullied by my mom so even if it's a mean comment about me being skinny I love it, it's like a win, I won, you can't even be realistically mean to me because there's nothing to poke fun at
Overall I love when others say something, today the lady in the bakery I always go gave me a donut 🥺🥺, she was so so sweet, like "you need to eat sweets! I'll give you a donut so you can start eating a little more", she made me eat half of it and tbh it was very tasty 😋, sadly I just made that my OMAD :') I'm so sorry bakery lady ily
But yeah, it does not bother me like at all, I love it since my recovery body was HELLISHLY bullied by my mom so even if it's a mean comment about me being skinny I love it, it's like a win, I won, you can't even be realistically mean to me because there's nothing to poke fun at
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been conflicted on this. on one hand it reassures me for a period of time that my weight loss is actually visible; on the other hand, i feel like there's a spotlight on me because of my weight and i more often than not am not a fan of it
No one has said anything to me about my recent weight loss (almost 23lbs). But I think it’s because everyone knows I was in recovery for 9 years. It’s makes me feel bad that no one has said anything. But I assume they don’t want to bring it up in case it’s a trigger I guess.
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I like it, but at the same time I don't.
I like it when people point it out, like as a passing comment, because it means my restriction is working and I'm getting the results I want.
But I hate it when it's become the topic of the conversation because I don't know how to react, like how my mom always brings it up on random conversations and sticks to it until I just up and leave. It's awkward, because it's too much of a reminder that I'm messed up.
I like it when people point it out, like as a passing comment, because it means my restriction is working and I'm getting the results I want.
But I hate it when it's become the topic of the conversation because I don't know how to react, like how my mom always brings it up on random conversations and sticks to it until I just up and leave. It's awkward, because it's too much of a reminder that I'm messed up.
It's really strange dynamic in my head because comments on my body feel like validation but I also get a sense of discomfort when people say anything about how I look, especially when it's random people.
My family comments about my body a lot and it doesn't bother me as much as it used to since I've gotten used to it, I think it's worse when they don't say anything and just stare at you with a worrisome look, and you know exactly what they're thinking.
My family comments about my body a lot and it doesn't bother me as much as it used to since I've gotten used to it, I think it's worse when they don't say anything and just stare at you with a worrisome look, and you know exactly what they're thinking.
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