I haven't had friends since I left high school really. I see a handful of people every few months. Its more because of social anxiety than anything else but nowadays I'm withdrawing from even the people I normally do spend time with. I scrunch up and post on MPA instead of socializing because my depression is so extreme I just can't do anything. I can barely hold a conversation. I'm incredibly lonely but I dont know what to do other than baby steps. First thing is getting back on my medicine. I have to have my bf make me an appt cause I can't make phone calls.

Wanting to go to the gym rather than be around anyone, even my bf, or not wanting to see my family because id rather sit at home with my safe foods is just a level of isolation I dont need on top of everything else!

 

OP I feel ya! I feel so anti-social in work as I never eat lunch with anyone and meeting friends always seems to involve food so I beg out half the time - especially if its last minute and I have no time to work up a sufficient calorie deficit.

 

I feel u so hard

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Saw the title and I was just OH MY GOD DON'T EVEN GET STARTEEEDD. Fucking hell man.

I mean I love my food but, that's my food, not that sneezed on shit.

I don't want you wanks staring at me anyway. BYEEE.

 

Omg yes whyyyy

 

I don't have friends with or without ingesting calories. I get asked out on the occasional date which I have to turn down bc it'd involve eating (not that I'd want to go anyway), but I'm pretty sure no guy actually likes me and they only ask me out in the hopes of getting an easy fuck, so it's no loss :lol:

 

it sucks so much. It's like as soon as I leave my room I'm surrounded by eating situations. And now it's happening in class. Someone brings food for everyone every damn day...

 

cause its the norm..

 

Why is eating not private like any other body function? I so want the norm to change.

 

I hate that is has become the norm.
All I can think of to get out of it is non-restruant situations, like say for eg. a nightclub. First of all, you can get whatever drinks you want/no drinks at all/drugs like ecstasy or whatevs(disco biscuits have no calories! ) plus, no one says you HAVE to get the after-club kebab with everyone. Especially when your 'strung out on eccys' or even just 'feeling sick from the alcohol' therefore you 'just want water' else you'll hurl.
It's hard, tell me about it hey!, but God that isolation man...
We all needa get out sometime

 

Yeah u don't have many friends either, and dating is tough.

I usually suggest coffee instead of lunch/dinner. Or just go get high/drunk and fuck around.

 

My friends don't actually care much. They all take my lunch and all of my food because most of them don't eat at home either. What sets us apart is that I don't eat anywhere. It's America's favorite pastime. Even if you don't live in America, it's still probably just something to do. Unlike showering or taking a shit, eating is one of the human needs that people have turned into a social situation. I don't mind much. My friends don't mind much. The Mom of our friend group is always forcing food upon everyone but I'm usually the only one who denies it.

 

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2 years ago I was 110 my lw, then I got close to 3 friends who ruined my life. When we were friends everything we did together involved food. But I didn't mind, my ed went away for a while and they made me happy. But one day after a year they stopped talking to me. I don't know why and I probably never will. I got sad and put on even more. Now I'm at my heaviest of 142. I'm absolutely disgusted with my body.

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tbh i don't understand this concept, rarely when i see my friends am i even prompted to eat, unless we're going somewhere food specific and even then theres no pressure for me to eat, like the way a lot of ED people talk is as if you can't see your friends ever unless you eat, i don't understand that.

 

I hope "my mom said no" still works when I'm 30... otherwise I'm panicking about this already.

 

Omg I know this drives me insane! All our group does out is dinner at a Thai or Mexican restaurant followed by drinks. Like kill me! Occasionally (like when I organise) we do breakfast out so I can just have a fruit salad or something like bowling where we get some exercise and I always eat first and am like 'oh I didn't think we'd eat' but since we all turned 18 someone always pipes in with let's got the club first to eat which serve Thai food!!! 😫😠😫

 

Omg, my friends eat every 2 freakin hours. Its like breakfast, snack, chocolate, more snacks, a latte, lunch, dinner, so much freakin food, but I guess a normal amount. A friend literally sat me down and watched me eat a bowl of pasta cause I "don't eat."

UGHHHHH

 

I tend to at school so that I can focus, so they think I'm normal and don't care when I don't eat for the whole day when we go out on the weekends 😄 ok they probably noticeable sometimes they seem a bit like what the hell but they don't care that much and I can usually brush it off with some shiz like I'm a veggie and I hate all of these particular foods xD
I cannot physically survive without my friends and/or social contact I don't know what's wrong with me I always used to be the opposite but I just am desperate to talk to or be around people all the time recently guys it is possible to have friends and not eat literally just be like "I ate before I came sorry lol how embarrassing didn't realise we would be eating together" or "no thanks I would but I'm seriously full from breakfast ️earlier my mom made it and it was huge-worth it though wink wink" or "ewww lol so gross sorry no thank you I'm alright for food right now thanks but tell you what I am hella thirsty pls could I have a glass of water" "or sorry I'm a vegan now there is literally milk in everything and I just can't justify eating/drinking said food to myself any longer- thank you for offering though" I could go on forever :3

 

It's like we've forgotten how to bond, how to actually sit & have conversations in real time. We spend so much time texting, typing, that talking in-person has become difficult; we forget that it isn't necessary to fill every moment of silence with words.. So, we eat & stuff our mouths so we don't have to sit around awkwardly making eye contact whilst sitting in silence.

 

My best and only real friend has an ED. We are bad for each other in that we seriously enable each other. But... she is the one person who has accepted me for me and loves me for who I am, as I do her.

All my other friends want me to socialise, but it is always... can we go for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks bla bla bla and I fill to overflow with anxiety so would rather not go!

 

When I go out with friends I just don't eat when they get food and it doesn't seem to be a problem so when I go out with friends it's almost a garenteed fasting day

 

it sucks, but it's kinda just the thing to do. sometimes you can plan for it tho, so that's nice. most of the people i hang out with are people i live with, so it's easy to say i ate when i was out or something. my best friend also has an eating disorder, so she never cares, but we are each other's enablers and it's not pretty.

 

I am just delaying a meet up with a very close friend because it is going to involve food whether at her place or out.

 

One of my friends knows about my E.D. so whenever we are making plans she tries to ensure there will be no food or it's a restaurant i'm safe with as nobody else in the group knows. I can't even tell you how grateful I am to have such an understanding friend and when I go stay with her (She's at uni in another city) she makes sure the first thing we do is go shopping so I can buy my safe foods for staying with her and never pressures me into eating and backs me up when i tell her flatmates i'm a "fussy eater" and that's why i'm having a different dinner