For me, it’s true. Definitely about vanity. But idk what people expect when they put so much emphasis on a woman’s looks. Like be thin and happy and like sex but not too much sex and don’t have an eating disorder. Workout everyday. Look perfect but be natural. Be horny but only have -3 sexual partners.

 

I don't get angry or defensive, but I get sad. EDs are living hell for so many, they kill. I don't see myself as vain, I just suffer from a severe case of having zero self esteem and feel unlovable and disgusting in my own skin. I wouldn't be satisfied even if I weighed two pounds. I'd still hate myself. That's not vanity. I can't think of anyone I personally know with an ED who is vain... It's sad people who think EDs are based on vanity don't understand, but I do hope they never have to experience it for themselves. This controls my life, my thoughts, everything. It's stolen some of my best years from me, but oh, of course I was just so vain I wanted to throw my life away.

 

I def don't agree with the fact that it's ONLY about being vain. I always saw it as a disorder caused by not feeling good enough on your own deep down and wanting to have something make you valid. And needing control in your live. But of course that is different for every one.

And also I am very very vain!
I'm always occupied with looking good and it's never good enough.
Everyone thinks I'm only being extremely vain, but they don't see my behaviour also has to do with secretly being really insecure.

TW:
I don't know about other people, but I think it might be a way of self harm to me? I used to cut but stopped and I notice that when I can't cut I tend to focus way more on...this.

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I can understand why people think that because my ED started with dieting to look better. However, I do feel pretty sad that it's misunderstood to be only an issue of vanity because now it's become a form of stress relief, self punishment, and expression of fear all at the same time. Normies just don't understand how much of your life it takes over.

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when ur a dude with an ED

it's hilarious what people think

cuz they don't blame society on it

they just tell u that ur weak minded cuz ur vulnerable

but eh

 

We have a whole subforum dedicated to thinspo and selfies. Image plays a big ole part. But however comma. Hyperfixation on appearance is just a symptom of the disease rather than the whole disease itself.

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It could possible start out as that. Low self esteem wanting to look and feel better in your own skin. But I think at some point it sorta morphs into something darker

 

i mean it's a part of it but it's so much deeper so i try my hardest to explain that there is so much more going on than just "i want to be pretty at all costs" cuz sometimes it isn't even about being thin but about control and the fact that we want to be skinny is a side effect of everything going on. it's a very complex topic that not everyone understands.

 

when ur a dude with an ED
it's hilarious what people think
cuz they don't blame society on it
they just tell u that ur weak minded cuz ur vulnerable
but eh

What

 

What

sleep deprived high thoughts, my friend

nothing makes sense lol

jus leave it be

 

I don't stuff my face like a pig for vanity

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I've never heard it called that. There is an element of vanity that is sort of taboo, but obviously EDs don't have one single cause.

 

When someone blames vanity or society I just stay silent and think to myself, "Mother fucker! Here we go..."

 

it's annoying tbh, I mean sure its true for some people. but like... everyone who has tried to treat me always assume I personally give a shit about looking like a model, 'what men like' etc and yeaaah that ain't me. I just wanna be small and have control over that, idgaf about what people like.

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People who are in vain usually love themselves, whilst people with ED's basically hate themselves and torment their bodies in every possible way..

 

Leaving the ridiculous assumption that EDs=a simple desire to lose weight aside, what is “vain” about wanting to lose weight anyway? Are people not allowed to want to change themselves

 

I def don't agree with the fact that it's ONLY about being vain. I always saw it as a disorder caused by not feeling good enough on your own deep down and wanting to have something make you valid. And needing control in your live. But of course that is different for every one.

And also I am very very vain!
I'm always occupied with looking good and it's never good enough.
Everyone thinks I'm only being extremely vain, but they don't see my behaviour also has to do with secretly being really insecure.

TW:
I don't know about other people, but I think it might be a way of self harm to me? I used to cut but stopped and I notice that when I can't cut I tend to focus way more on...this.

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Bruuuhhhh are you me?

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Perhaps partly but I think we are punishing ourselves more so. Personally for me I do want to lose weight and I think it will look better but at the same time I know I'll look and feel dead. And if I wanted to look good I would stop at a higher weight than I want to. It's a way I deal with my problems or other peoples problems.

 

I just think they’re ignorant. It’s such an oversimplification that it’s insane. Is the ED egotistical and judgmental? Yes, absolutely and I hate myself for it, but I know the place it comes from. I want the feelings associated with vanity I suppose (power, superiority, control, pride, uniqueness), but I definitely wouldn’t say it’s all about being thin.

 

I would look thoughtfully at them and say “Oh yeah, maybe. Is that why you’re so fat? Because you tried to get thicc for vanity, but then couldn’t stop eating, you pig?”

 

Literally just no.
It makes you loose all your hair volume and shine, messes up your skin, teeth, nails, etc.
Anyone who is vain would resort to makeup or healthy weight loss sooner than the risks associated with EDs

 

I think they just are misinformed. The general population thinks EDs aren't a severe mental illness, thinks it's a "choice", and so on.

Like it's offensive but it's also so misguided it can't be anything but ignorance.

 

I don't get angry or defensive, but I get sad. EDs are living hell for so many, they kill. I don't see myself as vain, I just suffer from a severe case of having zero self esteem and feel unlovable and disgusting in my own skin. I wouldn't be satisfied even if I weighed two pounds. I'd still hate myself. That's not vanity. I can't think of anyone I personally know with an ED who is vain... It's sad people who think EDs are based on vanity don't understand, but I do hope they never have to experience it for themselves. This controls my life, my thoughts, everything. It's stolen some of my best years from me, but oh, of course I was just so vain I wanted to throw my life away.

For me personally I see myself as a weird blend of narcissism and deep self-loathing. I need other people to like me. But I know I'm fundamentally wrong, fundamentally broken.

 

I think vanity is part of it but not necessarily as a flaw of the person with the ED. It feels like internalized sexism because I want to seem composed and in control. The goal isn't necessarily skinny as much as it is overall perfection. I don't think anyone takes me seriously when I'm heavy