Well said

 

Praise this post

 

Yes ^

 

Anyone with a weight problem has some issue with food.

 

Yaaaas preach

 

Yaaaas preach

I'm so glad you guys don't all hate me for posting that. pheww

 

Most importantly... They have feelings too. They feel horrible about themselves and their weight and the fact that they allowed themselves to get so big. I know a lot of obese/overweight people. None of them feel good about how they look. Let's be nice to them.

 

even though i dont fat shame persay. I do however judge a fat person if they wear unflattering clothing. Its like an automatic response. Im not disgusted in the person for being fat its the outfit.

 

Most importantly... They have feelings too. They feel horrible about themselves and their weight and the fact that they allowed themselves to get so big. I know a lot of obese/overweight people. None of them feel good about how they look. Let's be nice to them.

Yes i agree my mother was obese my whole life until she decided enough was enough. She is 54yrs old 5'5 and almost 120lbs(she lost about 160lbs). My sister is obese and just last summer lost about 80lbs. She has a way to go but yes they know what they look like. They see magazines, the movie stars, and what media deems as beautiful they know. Depression can cause weight gain. Not every obese person is depressed but my mom and sister were about thier weight.

 

even though i dont fat shame persay. I do however judge a fat person if they wear unflattering clothing. Its like an automatic response. Im not disgusted in the person for being fat its the outfit.

In some cases of body dysmorphic disorder people can think that they are skinnier than they actually are. There for they buy clothing that's too small for them. I'm not having a go at you, I'm just letting you know.

 

Most importantly... They have feelings too. They feel horrible about themselves and their weight and the fact that they allowed themselves to get so big. I know a lot of obese/overweight people. None of them feel good about how they look. Let's be nice to them.

YASSSS^^^^^

 

In some cases of body dysmorphic disorder people can think that they are skinnier than they actually are. There for they buy clothing that's too small for them. I'm not having a go at you, I'm just letting you know.

no worries. you're right.

 

This post for forever <3 . We should never ever EVER shame ANYBODY about their physical appearance, no matter what it is.

(Not that we're seeing so much of this here, but the same applies to skinny-shaming. Skinny people could have an eating disorder, or an illness, or be on medication that makes putting on weight extremely hard, or just be naturally tiny.)

Not that I would ever say such things out loud to anyone, but I have been guilty of fat-shaming people, in my mind. Usually when I am on a fast or something, probably because I am jealous of them 'getting to eat' whatever they want. Forgetting that they, if they are obese, most likely have an eating disorder of a different kind. I have thought them lazy, or not good enough, or not trying hard enough. They are horrible, bitter thoughts that stem completely from my own messed-up mind. It is not anyone else's job to look a certain way for me.

Imagine how much healthier we could all be if these ridiculous standards of beauty weren't so revered in our society. We might not have eating disorders at all!

You are not defined by how you look. In your life your weight WILL fluctuate. You WILL age. It is all part of the narrative of being alive, in this vehicle of experience we call a body. You have might HAVE fat, but YOU are not fat. The same way that you HAVE eyelashes.... YOU are not eyelashes.

Everybody, everywhere, should treat others with love, always... but we, ED sufferers that we are, should be even MORE sensitive to this issue. Imagine if someone on the street called you fat tomorrow? What would you do? Would you cry all night, or fast for a week, or purge everything you've eaten? I would never wish this hell upon anyone else, overweight or otherwise. Compassion, love, and understanding are the tools we have to use if we want to grow.

 

Hell yeah!

Let's destroy misconceptions on being 'fat'! Thank you so much for posting this. I hope it doesn't get negative responses or start argument, but rather spark acceptance and empathy.

Posting something like this isn't easy, so good on you for having the strength to do it!

 

this

it's a forgotten thing that overweight people can suffer an eating disorder and binge eating disorders can be as deadly as anorexia.

 

Bless you.

 

Yes i agree my mother was obese my whole life until she decided enough was enough. She is 54yrs old 5'5 and almost 120lbs(she lost about 160lbs). My sister is obese and just last summer lost about 80lbs. She has a way to go but yes they know what they look like. They see magazines, the movie stars, and what media deems as beautiful they know. Depression can cause weight gain. Not every obese person is depressed but my mom and sister were about thier weight.

Good for them for doing something about it! Wow she's at a very good weight for her height. Congrats to both of them! I'm
Glad they found motivation to lose weight. I'm trying to get my mom to do the same thing, bought her a workout video and meal plan and little plastic Tupperware like cups that show you how much to eat from every food group!

 

Hell yeah!

Let's destroy misconceptions on being 'fat'! Thank you so much for posting this. I hope it doesn't get negative responses or start argument, but rather spark acceptance and empathy.

Posting something like this isn't easy, so good on you for having the strength to do it!

thank you

 

In some cases of body dysmorphic disorder people can think that they are skinnier than they actually are. There for they buy clothing that's too small for them. I'm not having a go at you, I'm just letting you know.

^^ this!!
I swear i never know what my body truly looks like! I was overweight a few years ago and I never realised how big I was until I lost weight ( I think my mind blocked out how big I was as a way of coping with my weight gain because otherwise I wouldn't have been able to cope with life, I knew I was big but I didn't look as big as I actually was in my head. I thought I was smaller than other people the same size as me and stupid stuff like that! Now as I lose weight I've lost the concept of skinny.... I think almost everyone I pass could afford to lose a few pounds (even if they shouldn't if u get me??) the smaller I get the more my mind readjusts itself as soon as I start thinking ooooh I'm slim I'm looking good my mind readjusts and my size is now average to chubby and not slim again) it's messed up.. Sorry for such a long rambling comment

 

^^ this!!
I swear i never know what my body truly looks like! I was overweight a few years ago and I never realised how big I was until I lost weight ( I think my mind blocked out how big I was as a way of coping with my weight gain because otherwise I wouldn't have been able to cope with life, I knew I was big but I didn't look as big as I actually was in my head. I thought I was smaller than other people the same size as me and stupid stuff like that! Now as I lose weight I've lost the concept of skinny.... I think almost everyone I pass could afford to lose a few pounds (even if they shouldn't if u get me??) the smaller I get the more my mind readjusts itself as soon as I start thinking ooooh I'm slim I'm looking good my mind readjusts and my size is now average to chubby and not slim again) it's messed up.. Sorry for such a long rambling comment

My friend was the same. That's how I learned that there were 2 sides of BDD

 

Most importantly... They have feelings too. They feel horrible about themselves and their weight and the fact that they allowed themselves to get so big. I know a lot of obese/overweight people. None of them feel good about how they look. Let's be nice to them.

This !!!

 

I agree with this post. We have no idea what that person is going thru as well as what medical conditions prevent them from losing weight. There are a lot of circumstances that can lead to obesity. It may be out of their control. Just as well as some people are naturally skinny. Judging comes naturally but we should stop and think before we judge someone else's condition.most of my family is on the huge side. Well from what I remember. I vowed to not look like them. But most of them do have medical conditions that prevent them from losing weight.

 

I've never understood why people feel the need to humiliate overweight people. When it comes to myself I judge harshly, but I'm so much kinder in the way I view other people. If they are a nice person with a good heart, I won't think any less of them for being overweight. In fact, some of the most beautiful people are overweight. They tend to be less up themselves, less self-centred and more down to earth than some of the skinny/beautiful people. The one thing I cannot stand is bitchiness and a cold, ugly heart. That shit makes a person very unattractive in my eyes.

 

Thank you so much for this wonderful post <3

 

Thank you so much for this wonderful post <3

I felt it needed to be said