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Stopping a binge - please just need some support

363 views 8 replies 6 participants last post by  LIzaO  
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#1 ·
So I'm sitting here

I've just eaten a bag of cookies, 890 cal; and half a box of dates, 266 cal

And earlier I had a cottage pie and some celery but that was lunch so that was okay 286 cal

And I was about to walk back to Tesco for more food. Probably an Amy's Kitchen macaroni cheese and a garlic pizza bread, and some kind of fresh cream cake thing and some more cookies.

I don't want to do this any more.

I don't want to want to do this any more.

I'm supposed to be trying to lose weight because I'm a fat fucking manatee who snapped and binged right back up as soon as I started getting to a size that actually felt good back in December. I was just over 7 stone and I've packed on twenty fucking pounds in eight weeks of hell since then. I can't stand it. I'm sitting here and the fat is everywhere on me and my stomach is porging out over my porky thighs and oh god I'm a distended, bloated sack of flab. I have a referral to an ED specialist and I'm seeing my GP again on March 4th and I CAN'T still be this fat when I do because I feel like the worst, attention-seeking fake in the world. How the hell can you have an ED when you look like me for fuck's sake? I feel like this is never going to go away, not fast enough, because I only seem to go a couple of days at a time now before I start binging it back again. I want to wake up and be back where I was before the binging. I just want to crawl out of my skin and b/p is the only thing I know that will make me stop feeling like this, even just for a moment.

I lost almost seven pounds recently, from 126 down to 119.5, restricting to 1000 a day. I managed almost a week straight without fucking it up. But then I binged on nearly 6000 calories on Wednesday and only got some up and I binged on nearly 5000 calories yesterday and couldn't get any of it and I tried to get rid of the cookies just now and I can't so I just feel like today is already screwed up, since I've had over my TDEE (just sat around all day doing nothing and didn't even go for a run). But I also know that 200 calories over HAS to be better than 4000 calories over and that is how I'll see it tomorrow.

Oh god I just don't know what to do.

Please.
 
#2 ·
Don't go to tesco. Honestly it will just extend this binge cycle to keep doing it. You have thevawreness to stop so really try to stop this binge.

You can always knock 200 calories off tomorrow's intake to fix it although I don't think you'd gain anyway.

I know how horrible it is to gain so much weight so fast from binges, it sucks. It hurts. And it drives you insane but you can stop this by stopping each binge before it gets out of hand. You said it your self you can lose its just the binges, so minimise and stop the binges the moment you notice them. Eventually you'll stop earlier and earlier until you stop before it happens.

*hugs* I hope your okay.
 
#3 ·
You can do this!! You do NOT have to purge. Just breathe through this. I am rooting for you love <3
 
#4 ·
I've literally experience how hopeless it is trying to lose weight and it's like you keep yoyoing, in 2014-2016 I went from 121-150 and yoyoed for like a year between 135-150 all while I was trying to lose weight.

I don't even want to see the number on the scale because my digestive system is retarded and despite the strides I've made this week it probably registers a gain on the scale... It is depressing as fuck.
All I can say is try to distract yourself. Drink water, study, do things unrelated to food. Do more than just your Ed and pretty much you'll be too busy to focus on wanting to binge. Eventually you'll just think "oh I don't even have time to binge because I have somewhere to be at 3oclock" or whatever.

Idk. I go through this feeling all the time, my weight yoyos so much so I never ever really like the way my body looks.
 
#5 ·
Why can't you get your food up when you fall off? How long have you been doing this? You won't feel better until you get it up. Seriously, nobody can feel OK with eating a bag of cookies unless they can get them up. I don't care who. Don't get more food, drink lots of soda and then get them up. Then, you start fresh and limit your intake back like you did at 1000. You fucked up a couple days, but you can get back on track. Maybe lower it a few days to make up for the two binges,
 
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#6 ·
Well... I was feeling a lot better after the first three comments. Thank you. *hug*

I can usually get it up. I've b/ped occasionally for a couple of years now, but tended to compensate with restriction more. Then I started binging basically every day back in December and the purging has followed. At this point it's morphing into binging knowing I'm going to purge rather than panicking and purging when I realise I've binged. Past two days, though, hell, who knows? It's not like cookies and dates are the easiest and yesterday was a load of pastry and very little water (totally unplanned), and I drew blood with my nails and still nothing.

But thanks for reminding me that there's no way I can possibly move past this and not feel like a failure while I still have the food in me. I mean, it's not like purging is terrible for you and a good thing to avoid doing, or anything.
 
#8 ·
Why can't you get your food up when you fall off? How long have you been doing this? You won't feel better until you get it up. Seriously, nobody can feel OK with eating a bag of cookies unless they can get them up. I don't care who. Don't get more food, drink lots of soda and then get them up. Then, you start fresh and limit your intake back like you did at 1000. You fucked up a couple days, but you can get back on track. Maybe lower it a few days to make up for the two binges,
...im not sure if you are bulimic or have another ED but you should know that purging food is not the best "solution" to binging. Quite the opposite, knowing you can purge usually enlarges your binges and makes them more frequently...and lets not talk about the health implications purging has bc theres a ton. Im not sure why youd suggest to someone that 1) keeping the cookies in shouldnt make her feel "ok" and 2) tell her to purge and tell her how. That, and restricting wont do much for binge urges as well, no one who knows about recovering from binge eating will suggest restricting....
 
#9 ·
Well... I was feeling a lot better after the first three comments. Thank you. *hug*

I can usually get it up. I've b/ped occasionally for a couple of years now, but tended to compensate with restriction more. Then I started binging basically every day back in December and the purging has followed. At this point it's morphing into binging knowing I'm going to purge rather than panicking and purging when I realise I've binged. Past two days, though, hell, who knows? It's not like cookies and dates are the easiest and yesterday was a load of pastry and very little water (totally unplanned), and I drew blood with my nails and still nothing.

But thanks for reminding me that there's no way I can possibly move past this and not feel like a failure while I still have the food in me. I mean, it's not like purging is terrible for you and a good thing to avoid doing, or anything.
Well... I was feeling a lot better after the first three comments. Thank you. *hug*

I can usually get it up. I've b/ped occasionally for a couple of years now, but tended to compensate with restriction more. Then I started binging basically every day back in December and the purging has followed. At this point it's morphing into binging knowing I'm going to purge rather than panicking and purging when I realise I've binged. Past two days, though, hell, who knows? It's not like cookies and dates are the easiest and yesterday was a load of pastry and very little water (totally unplanned), and I drew blood with my nails and still nothing.

But thanks for reminding me that there's no way I can possibly move past this and not feel like a failure while I still have the food in me. I mean, it's not like purging is terrible for you and a good thing to avoid doing, or anything.
Im sorry you read that ugh. Anyways, Im trying to lessen my b/p sessions and maybe recover as well so I havent been purging all my binges either and I know how horrible it feels. I get super suicidal even so yeah. What helps me with the guilt is crying it out and going for a walk/run. Im not talking about abusing exercise, but getting some daily cardio and 1200-1500 calories(minimum) a day makes me feel accomplished and my binge urges become less bad. As for the ED specialist, they probably know better than to judge by the weight. And if they do say anything, mention your binging(and since you mentioned you purge) your purging problem as well. I used to restrict a lot and lost a lot of weight...the restriction led to my bulimia and its only getting worse by the day. Dont try to go back to restricting just yet, its tempting but it will make your binging worse. Its a great opportunity to get help for your current problem and can even lead to recovery(idk if thats what you want though). but anyways, it will all be fine and you wont gain a lot of weight. its only ONE binge, and you have the power to change what you do tomorrow. take care~