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Not wanting to be sexualized

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Anyone else think it's really important to get thin enough to stop being instantly sexualized?
I tried explaining this to my non-ED, naturally skinny (-_-) friend today and she was like "Why would you not want to be sexualized??" and just couldn't understand it. She's paying 9k to have her breasts done! I mean you guys can understand this yeah?
 
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#3 ·
100%!!!

i was tryna add more to this but i cant figure out how to word it. irritating. i do not want any attention drawn to my body at all ever
I do but because of being skinny not 'curvy' 'healthy' or 'sexy'

Someone called my other friend really healthy looking and she took it as a compliment. My distorted little "What is WRONG with these people"
 
#4 ·
Yes! I want to be able to wear short shorts and have them look normal and not slutty on me.
 
#5 · (Edited by Moderator)
I think it's stupid that people oversexualize curves.
I have curves, I like my soft feminine curves. I don't have an extremely large butt (97cm or 38.6 inches) or extremely large breast (93cm or 36.6 inches) but I can't wear tight pants or blouses because I'd have five old perverts behind yelling at me and three closedminded moms saying that I'm a whore.
But of course, if one of my flat friends (not to be rude) wears a thong in the street, nothing will happen.
 
#8 ·
It gives me terrible anxiety just thinking my body can be even a little bit sexualized. It makes me feel violated. But, I guess that just goes along with me wanting to be perceived as a cute little girl. And, how wrong is it to want to fuck a little girl?

When I was walking my dog, wearing baggy everything, a crusty, old man yelled "Hey, sexy!" I nearly had a panic attack. I told my mom about the situation and she just laughed and said, "You're growing up. Some people are going to think of you that way."

And, I'm just thinking WhatnononononononoonooButI'mnosorrynotmeokaythanksmovealong.

Also a plus to losing weight, in my case anyway, you look more androgynous along with looking pubescent.
 
#9 ·
I have a problem with this.... I don't want people to just see me as a "sexy girl", I want them to see me as an artist and someone who has great thoughts.

But still, I hate the fact that my breast are barely cup B and I have thought about going to a plastic surgery, even I know it's fucked up... I'm trying to get rid of these ideas, but my friends continuously make jokes about me not having boobs and it really depresses me... ;___;
 
#10 ·
i totally get it.

i hate being sexualized. i hate walking down the street and hearing old men whisteling or cat calling me.

once, some guy asked me for directions. i told him where he had to go.

then, his friend said "hey! nice ass, how old are you?". and they just laughed.

not even a 'thank you' . yeah fuck off. is that what you get for helping people?

and i've had my butt/boobs grabbed by strangers too. it's so gross and scares me everytime…

i hate it! i fucking hate it!

and they're always old as shit. like wow, cool, i'm only attractive to pedophiles too, great.
 
#11 ·
Honestly both sexes sexualized each other. There's no way around it.
 
#12 ·
I understand completely. I'm asexual, and I do not want people to view me as sexual. I'm cool with people thinking I'm stylish or whatever, but I do not want to be sexually attractive. I want to remain a child.
 
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#13 ·
I guess that's one of the reasons why I want to lose weight. If someone would think I'm sexy it would make me feel like I'm just an object to them. I'm not sure why I feel that way. It's not like I had ever been sexualized a lot. Boys/men have never paid much attention to me.

I just wish people would think I'm cute and smart rather than sexy.
 
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#14 ·
I have a problem with this.... I don't want people to just see me as a "sexy girl", I want them to see me as an artist and someone who has great thoughts.

But still, I hate the fact that my breast are barely cup B and I have thought about going to a plastic surgery, even I know it's fucked up... I'm trying to get rid of these ideas, but my friends continuously make jokes about me not having boobs and it really depresses me... ;___;
nooooooooooooooooooooooooo you are SO lucky
 
#18 ·
Yea. I'm asexual. But I have D boobs and a bigger booty with a smaller waist and I hate it because apparently it's natural to be an idiot and attach promiscuity to curved chicks. I don't want sex and I want to stop getting sexual advances and sexually assaulted and abused. It's not fair that my body has gotten me so much unwanted and dangerous attention. HATE IT
 
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#25 · (Edited)
I have to admit, sometimes I like it, it makes me feel like a person again. I've been hiding inside for so long, wearing oversized clothes whenever I go out that fitting into my high school jeans again and getting stared at makes me feel good but when it goes beyond that to the cat calls especially when I'm with my kids it is right out embarrassing. I don't know how many times I've gotten myself lost trying to avoid a construction crew. I mean it's okay to appreciate a good looking person be it a woman or a man but going beyond that and staring for too long and making unnecessary comments is just demeaning. At the end of the day though, I only want my husbands eyes to pop out of his head when he see's me.
 
#26 ·
Y'all are reading my mind. I have d cup boobs, and the main reason I'm losing is to get rid of them. Because of their size, I have to wear a bra at home (because I'm scared stepdad will notice) I can't wear nice shirts because low cut makes me a slut while regular shirts balloon out like a circus tent. I don't go outside without a large sweater or jacket to hide my body. I maintain a scowl to ward off assholes. I just want to be dainty fragile and cute. I hate when my mom comments on how womanly I look. I hate going out in the summer and feeling ashamed. I want it all gone, I want to be in between.