It’s not that they don’t care, they are resigned to you doing it. You are not actively trying to heal so what is she meant to do. I feel like it’s a coping mechanism for her.

 

I’m living w/ my fiance and he’s fully aware of everything. I’m also a super open person when it comes to my Ed (generally), though it depends on the person and how much I trust them. I try not to purge when he’s home but it has happened a few times and it definitely does affect him. But he also understands that I’m struggling and I’m not ready to accept any kind of help. I feel awful bc I see how it affects him but I’m glad I can be super open w him about everything

 

She cares, but she likely knows it would be worse for your relationship to try to force you to stop every single night. That would be a losing battle and ruin your relationship. It's hard to remember that as the person with the ED, but other people can't force you to recover so the best they can do is be there for you where you're at

 

Idk she respects your boundaries I guess? What is she supposed to do.
I don't live with anyone who knows about my ed and actually no one knows about my ed everyone thinks I'n just weird with food. I have never read the nutrition label or used a food scale infront of anyone, I do it in secret and I will never normalize it

 

Idk she respects your boundaries I guess? What is she supposed to do.
I don't live with anyone who knows about my ed and actually no one knows about my ed everyone thinks I'n just weird with food. I have never read the nutrition label or used a food scale infront of anyone, I do it in secret and I will never normalize it

Or maybe they choose not to confront you?

 

It's not a partner or someone I live with, but all of my friends know about my ED and I guess have a similar kind of attitude? I used to fast a lot and I would just tell them I was doing it if they offered me food, they obviously cared and would rather I didn't but also knew it wasn't something to fight me about and were just used to it I guess? I would rather be honest about these things than constantly lying to people so I prefer it this way but I can see how it could also feel a bit disheartening

 

i dont think she doesn't care. Trying to help someone who doesnt accept help is a losing battle so shes porolly just resigned to it

 

My mum knows but I have to be very careful abt how I do and plan it and pretend to be recovered because of the pain it causes her knowing, when she found me binging it broke her and she feels Im betraying her in a way by damaging my body, hurting the person she has put so much love and care into. She loves me which is why she hates me for doing it. I get massive repercuttions if caught and it breaks our trust, Ive tried communicating not being able to heal but only minimise the amount but she cant accept that, which is understandable. I hate lieing to her.