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Does your general life become better when you get skinny?

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#1 ·
What is your personal experience? Does the quality of your life become much better when you get to your like ugw or is it the same. Like I feel nothing changes. I mean yea I change physically and a way psychologically but I feel like the cliche-all of your problems remain, skinny doesnt fix anything-remain. Idk I want to get skinny its my only goal in life atm, sad yea, but on the other hand theres this rationalizing I do that says to me youll get skinny but that wont chnage anything in your life. That kinda bummes me out. I have this fairytale notion in my head that when I get to my ugw my life will blossom or whatever and its just so weird
 
#2 ·
nah, it gets worse. i shout at people and alienate myself and i'll be tired 24/7 and can't walk anywhere because i'm too tired, yeah you get what i mean. and i'll set a lower ugw until i'm in hospital or some shit. so nah it's actual shit
 
#7 ·
I miss being 95lbs, I felt very lightweight and full of energies, even though I looked a bit ill on the outside...im weighing 7lbs more now and I want to get back to 95 because it felt amazing being at that weight for my energies
 
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#9 ·
Actually right before I hit my lw I felt good, ppl started talking to me more, I got hit on a little, even my grades improved a bit, I felt more confident, joked around more with friends, looking back at that time I probably looked and acted like the ideal girl. But then my parents started noticing, it all went downhill from there.
 
#10 ·
Mine gets better. I alienate myself less, I'm happier and more pleasant to be around, I don't get when something bad happens because at least I still have my petite body, etc... I know it's fucked up, but my ED is the only thing that's always been there for me. I need to get back to double digits already...

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#11 ·
No it doesn't. I'm too tired to do anything and too depressed because of my shitty diet to enjoy anybody's company or wish to go out and be skinny in public.
 
#13 ·
In my head I am glorifying last summer at my lw, but in real life, I was really anxious. I felt beautiful, thin and confident but my brain always told me to lose more more more until I'd fade away and disappear.

But yes, if I was 10kg lighter I guess my depression'll fade as I created it when I gained weight.

People stared at me and complimented me and I wasn't afraid to wear bikini and crop tops.

I was really afraid of gaining weight, strictly counted every half calorie and ate almost only veg but I was happy about myself.

That is why I want to lose weight.
 
#20 ·
Well, I do hate myself less...I really hated myself when I was obese. :/ but loads still hate themselves when they lose weight.
I am definetly prettier (not saying I'm a beauty queen, but a fat face on me, just...no)
Clothes are easier to get.
I think people actually treat me nicer.
But I still have insecurity and food issues so getting skinny doesn't "fix" you.
 
#22 ·
In going from actually overweight (like by any and all measures of what that would mean) to normal or thin, honestly, yes. I'm a totally different person. Way more outgoing, less cynical. It just feels like everything is going my way. I hate to admit that I like getting more attention, which happens when I'm thinner and cuter.

Going from already normal to even thinner is unremarkable to me.
 
#23 ·
Like everything else, some aspects of my life are better: cute clothes, attention from men and a glorious sweetie who thinks I am amazing. My insecurities are there because they are a part of me and I deal with them daily. The fear that I will be fat again is also there (didn't have this fear when I was actually fat) but I will never go back. Is my life better? Yes, because there are aspects that I like better but there is no perfection, only my pursuit of perfection for me. In my life, I have trade-offs but I will take these any day over being fat! I don't miss huffing and puffing to walk a flight of stairs, never looking good in my clothes and I don't miss being ridiculed and dismissed by most of society. The work and discipline to lose my weight was worth it for me but I still have OCD, fears and anxiety over gaining even a 1/2 pound.
 
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#24 ·
The insecurities and self hatred are all still there.. but everything just seems 1000x more bearable when I am not wanting to lock myself in my room due to being a whale or when I don't burst into teara each time I look into the mirror
 
#25 · (Edited by Moderator)
I don't get bullied for my weight anymore. People used to ask me out to mock me and loudly comment on my fat ass in the hallway. It was terrible. After losing 40 lbs everyone has backed off, even to the point of calling me, and I quote "skinny as fuck" I don't get it. I just don't see myself as skinny. Now the only reason I get bullied now is for being a "faggot". I don't really understand the premise for that accusation. I'll take being called a lesbian over being called a fatass any day. No shame :)
 
#26 ·
I get less attention from guys now but people don’t ever comment on my weight being big but they definitely make some really awakard comments like when I came back to school after loosing weight someone yelled omfg she’s going to snap, my boyfriends family talked about how great it was and my boss LITTERALLY cried because she was worried about me being too thin ... I am just glad no one calls me “big or curvy” anymore though