My bosses have commented on it, one of them said "you got skinny" like girl 💀💀 bold of you to assume I'm going to 💀 they've said they're jealous and constantly talk about wanting to lose weight and how fat they are. I hate when they comment shit like that, as if I'm not clearly suffering from an ED, it makes me self conscious about my body and my ED

 

all the time lol. random customers (i work retail), family, friends, etc.

i hate hate being perceived in any way so i feel extremelyyyyy uncomfortable when people comment on my body/weight (or any other physical aspect tbh)

 

I both love it and hate it at the same time

 

"You need to eat a cheeseburger"
"Why do you dress like that?" My clothes are baggy from weight fluctuations from my ED.
"You are so tiny you have no boobs"
"You'd look so pretty with weight on you. I can fatten you up"
I don't understand why someone always has something to say...

 

i always respond angrily but on the inside im like:🥰

 

I enjoy when people acknowledges it, when my mom or aunt say something I feel pure RAGE since they are pretty much the controlling type, esp my aunt, I'm one step away to actually create a situation with those two.

Overall I love when others say something, today the lady in the bakery I always go gave me a donut 🥺🥺, she was so so sweet, like "you need to eat sweets! I'll give you a donut so you can start eating a little more", she made me eat half of it and tbh it was very tasty 😋, sadly I just made that my OMAD :') I'm so sorry bakery lady ily

But yeah, it does not bother me like at all, I love it since my recovery body was HELLISHLY bullied by my mom so even if it's a mean comment about me being skinny I love it, it's like a win, I won, you can't even be realistically mean to me because there's nothing to poke fun at

 

been conflicted on this. on one hand it reassures me for a period of time that my weight loss is actually visible; on the other hand, i feel like there's a spotlight on me because of my weight and i more often than not am not a fan of it

 

No one has said anything to me about my recent weight loss (almost 23lbs). But I think it’s because everyone knows I was in recovery for 9 years. It’s makes me feel bad that no one has said anything. But I assume they don’t want to bring it up in case it’s a trigger I guess.

 

The people who knew me when I was much bigger do. But I don’t look alarmingly thin to the average person yet so no random comments. I don’t mind it too much and sometimes even enjoy it.

 

I like it, but at the same time I don't.

I like it when people point it out, like as a passing comment, because it means my restriction is working and I'm getting the results I want.

But I hate it when it's become the topic of the conversation because I don't know how to react, like how my mom always brings it up on random conversations and sticks to it until I just up and leave. It's awkward, because it's too much of a reminder that I'm messed up.

 

It's really strange dynamic in my head because comments on my body feel like validation but I also get a sense of discomfort when people say anything about how I look, especially when it's random people.

My family comments about my body a lot and it doesn't bother me as much as it used to since I've gotten used to it, I think it's worse when they don't say anything and just stare at you with a worrisome look, and you know exactly what they're thinking.

 

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It’s validating that I am getting results, even though most days it feels like I’m not. On the flip side, I hate people pointing attention to it because then I feel seen and judged, and I hate that.

 

at this point, it mostly just gives me the acknowledgement that my ED is valid. I met a guy last weekend who was literally a GP, and when we were in bed together he said ''you're amazingly beautiful, but you are quite thin'' and then we had a long ass conversation about my ED and he so carefully explained that (as he obviously sees a lot of different bodies throughout the day) people who are maybe my weight naturally look differently, in a way where on me it looks ''unnatural'', and how as a woman he could tell I was ''missing some fat tissue in certain places where there should be more fat tissue''.
All this may sound creepy or weird but it was the acknowledgement I so desperately needed that it's not all in my head, that I am ''sick enough'' to get more help. It was eye-opening, even though it's not necessarily new info, especially as doctors/therapists not taking me seriously is one of my biggest triggers.

Lots of people comment on it because everybody can clearly tell I drastically changed in less than a year, but it doesn't make me feel good. It always just confronts me with the fact that whoohoo I am now skinny but I literally... lost my entire life and will to live in return. Besides that the being skinny feels ugly-skinny 90% of the time because apparently it's very much visible that my skinnyness looks unnatural.

You literally cannot win.

 

Yeah, they comment mostly on my flat stomach (because I love wearing cropped tops).
I feel great lol

 

I just don't appreciate how some family members are worrying about you losing weight and it's not even that noticeable, no one else says anything but family always worry too much, maybe that's why i feel really bad about everything, i make them worried without wanting to

 

yeah all the time especially at my job since I work retail. I don’t mind compliments but people say weird shit and feel compelled to ask how/why I’m so thin. It’s super uncomfortable and when people are overly nosy about it I just want to look them dead in the eyes and tell them I’m anorexic lmao

 

A lot. My family and friends always tells me when I’ve gained or lost whether they mean it maliciously. It’s really triggering and not helpful and then makes me paranoid that everyone is significantly so aware of my weight.

I’ve been told by family members I look too gaunt when I’ve lost weight and then friends and family say I look healthier when I’ve gained. Really not helpful I wish they’d just say nothing.

 

I commented on this originally in May and said no….

my family and friends definitely do now 😑

 

My husband tells me often that I’m tiny or super skinny. (I know he mostly does it because he knows I like it). I don’t think he’s lying, just being overly nice lol. He knows about my ED.

I don’t get comments often because I have no friends/coworkers but at family events I get lots of comments. Like I got so many comments at my wedding but they made me feel awkward instead of happy. Like I was the odd one out. Like it’s nice to be called thin or tiny but I also kinda feel like people are lying to me about it(?). I feel like they’re blind, not actually being untruthful.

I feel like it also depends on the people commenting. I don’t think thin people would call me skinny. But heavier people probably would because of perception

 

Used to make me genuinely mad, idk. And I was never actually thin, I just lost weight in uni from genuinely not having the money to eat + depression.
I even told them that the reason I lost weight was because of literal poverty, and my mum just said she was glad I was back home to eat her cooking but that I should be careful not to gain the weight back. CUE, being introduced to a fucking eating disorder.
Comments on my weight actually trigger me now. Not in an anger way but a cynical fuck this world I should just die way. I hate that my weight is being perceived, I hate that I care so much, I hate that people genuinely treat you different based on being fat or thin. I didn't think that was real, but it is, it really is. Even my family who I know love me, but they treat me different.

 

Yeah. Lost weight rapidly and everyone is trying to make me eat and buying me food. I’m not even at an unhealthy bmi though 🙃 worried about how people will act when I’m at my gw.
Anyways it also makes me happy ofc but I hate when they try to make me eat. One narcissistic (or disordered) side of me thinks it’s because they’re jealous of my weight loss and wants me to get fat lol

 

Sometimes i want to tell them to shut up...

 

Yesterday had my MIL tell me I'm "too thin" and that I don't need to lose anymore weight. I've been avoiding her all this time for this exact reason. She's eating disordered herself and picks up on it fast.

Felt very exposed.

 

When i was an athlete and lean, i loved it, when im actively eating disordered- depends. I was trying to hide my current relapse and a friend noticed and it was pretty uncomfortable- then starts the ‘im worried’ conversations and i thought i wanted the concern and worry, but now I’ve got it im like really not into it at all. A second conversation took place on Friday that was awful. Non eating disordered people trying to talk sense into eating disordered people is not a vibe. I will be avoiding or shutting down any more attempts at conversation, for sure.