Just wondering, and around what time people started commenting. I was an overweight child until I started doing Karate when I was 8 years old. I was still chubby, but started losing weight from the exercise. My diet was still absolute shit so it didn't make a huge difference until I got to higher belts and was training more intensely and going through puberty. I was 12 when I read Wintergirls as part of assigned reading. Obviously things didn't go too well for the main character, but there was far too much "success" for far too long of the book, and it inspired/triggered me, as well as extreme hazing when starting training for my black belt. At 13, I was 5'8" and 112lbs of pure muscle. I had like no fat on my body at all. Rarely got my period. It's ridiculous how bad my body dysmorphia was in hindsight. I felt so fat all the time, and was eating OMAD whenever possible. The only people who ever commented on my weight was when I went to the doctor and they saw how much weight I had dropped so quickly. Without even seeing me, they diagnosed me with anorexia. This is something that stayed on my charts for years before my mom managed to get them to take it off. I always wonder if my parents knew or not, but I don't want to ask now. At that time I had only one friend, and she was pretty severely underweight. She had a high metabolism and no access to proper nutrition at home, and was going through the same extreme training and hazing I was. I always compared myself to her. Eventually I started opening up to her about my eating habits and overexercising. She screenshotted all my snaps and showed her mom, who then sent them to mine. I managed to convince her pretty shortly that it wasn't an issue anymore, but I was still force fed large portions for a long time. Nobody ever commented on my weight loss or subsequent weight gain other than the doctor that one time. I've had a few minor relapses, but none really stuck. Lost a couple lbs and gained them right back. Then in May 2022 I relapsed and got really serious about it mid-November and I've lost 10 lbs since. I don't notice a huge difference. My stomach looks a bit flatter and I have like no ass now unfortunately (Gotta start going to the gym and building some lean muscle). But somehow people seem to ve noticing this time, and have had no qualms commenting on my weight. On one hand, it feels good to know I'm noticably thinner, but it mostly pisses me off. Why do people notice now? I'm still not even underweight. Im not even at the absolutely low end of a healthy BMI. I'm just "healthy". But suddenly everyone and their mothers have something to say about my body, and they really aren't even compliments. I had the flu REALLY bad for a week and didn't eat. But I started my period and was super bloated and had actually gained a couple lbs over that time. When I got back to work my supervisor said it must have really did a number on me and I look anorexic. It was validating but it pissed me off because it didn't make sense. I was heavier and bigger than I was the last time I worked. Then today someone I was seeing for about a month around October replied to my snapchat story of my outfit today saying "Hate to be that guy but do be careful with diets, you're lookin real slim but nutrition is good". Like the post wasn't even about my body, just the fit. I guess I'm glad people are noticing my weight loss but it's not compliments. It's all just coming in the form of unwarranted comments and advice. I wish at that point people would just keep their mouths shut. I'm not even skinny yet, just average thin, bmi 20.7. I'm supposed to be hanging out platonically with this guy tomorrow and now I don't even want to. He already annoyed me, and it's the unwarranted advice and comments that really just put me over the edge. I just wanna disappear. I also wanted to fast or heavily restrict these next couple days off, but we're getting dinner and no matter what I get it's gonna totally fuck that up. And now I feel pressured to eat a large portion since he's concerned.
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Do people comment on your thinness? How does it make you feel?
my family does a lot. i was obese my whole life until this past year. my grandma made endless comments about how ugly i looked. now she's all compliments, telling me not to get smaller, please eat more. people will always have a problem with your body.
this!! and not just your body, people will always have something to say, about absolutely anything
for me, comments on my weight make me feel a mix of validation and happiness (cause the way I see my body is changing by the minute, so outside validation is always welcome lol) and guilt- cause at that point everyone in my close surrounding knows what's going on, and I hate making people worry...
Yeah mostly family or friends of my parents, some examples:
“You’re tiny” “stick insect” “you need a burger” “you’ve lost weight”
I honestly love it tbh, it makes me feel validated and it’s wayy better than someone telling you you look “healthy”
“You’re tiny” “stick insect” “you need a burger” “you’ve lost weight”
I honestly love it tbh, it makes me feel validated and it’s wayy better than someone telling you you look “healthy”
I lost about 7 pounds in the past few months, I regained a few pounds recently.
my entire family has commented on how skinny I looked (before the weight gain), my grandpa when hugged me said I felt too tiny, and my mom felt like my weight and eating habits was something that needed to be brought up over family dinner. but don't get me started on my mom and the things she says about weight lol. some random lady in a nail salon also commented on how "small" I was, just stuff like that.
it's very annoying that people think they have the right to make random comments about my body or eating habits to me, it feels invasive. but as all of us anorexics know, it also makes us feel validated and weirdly happy. if I don't think I look skinny, at least someone else does.
and bottom line is it affirms for me that people are constantly judging me based on my weight. good or bad.
my entire family has commented on how skinny I looked (before the weight gain), my grandpa when hugged me said I felt too tiny, and my mom felt like my weight and eating habits was something that needed to be brought up over family dinner. but don't get me started on my mom and the things she says about weight lol. some random lady in a nail salon also commented on how "small" I was, just stuff like that.
it's very annoying that people think they have the right to make random comments about my body or eating habits to me, it feels invasive. but as all of us anorexics know, it also makes us feel validated and weirdly happy. if I don't think I look skinny, at least someone else does.
and bottom line is it affirms for me that people are constantly judging me based on my weight. good or bad.
My partner said “you’re so skinny” during sex and it totally fucked up the whole mood lol I was no longer paying attention to anything cuz I was so up in my head like “no I’m fucking not?? Why would he say that?? Is he making fun of me???”
The guy that did the title/deed to my house asked if I had been losing weight, which I jumped immediately to Deny-Deny-Deny, and that one made my day.
I guess I’m just insane lol
The guy that did the title/deed to my house asked if I had been losing weight, which I jumped immediately to Deny-Deny-Deny, and that one made my day.
I guess I’m just insane lol
I haven’t been confronted about it by anyone but if I was confronted I would feel nervous and uncomfortable about the subject. To me it would mean that they think it’s getting serious enough to bring it up to me even if it just a nice comment like “hey you looking good lately” It would send me into worry mode.
I wish people commented more on my weight, when I was at my lw my friends made some comments here and there like sarcastically calling me 'big' or 'fat' (which I felt weird about) or one time pulled up this pic of sponge bob after I flexed lolol:
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Other than that I don't really get any comments, my family completely ignores it which I feel pretty neutral about honestly.
I wish I got 'concerned' comments, my friends def know I'm disordered but it's just an elephant in the room kind of thing that we never talk about.
Other than that I don't really get any comments, my family completely ignores it which I feel pretty neutral about honestly.
I wish I got 'concerned' comments, my friends def know I'm disordered but it's just an elephant in the room kind of thing that we never talk about.
They do and I used to really, really want someone to acknowledge how thin I was getting but when it actually happens now I don’t know how to react. I feel weird saying “thank you” to being called skinny so I usually just give a quiet nod or barely acknowledge it at all. One of the most uncomfortable moments was when I was at dinner with a friend and their family and their stepdad said something along the lines of “ Blue can eat anything she wants and still weigh like four pounds! How do you do that ?” and there was a lull in the conversation so everyone heard and I just laughed awkwardly and shrugged. Yikes
I feel totally invalid despite being severely underweight. No one seems to care when you’re old.
I’ve had arfid my entire life and couple that with no access to proper nutrition i was a scrawny kid until I moved in with my mom. I gain weight during puberty and my mom and stepdad were so vicious about it. They wouldn’t let me lie down on the stomach because my “fat thighs were sprawling across the couch”. Looking back at the pictures I wasn’t even fat. I wasn’t even chubby. I was at bmi 21.
Anyway I drastically lost some weight until I was visibly sick and underweight, a couple of teachers tried to talk to me about it too but then I kept gaining and losing the same weight. I got so much better after moving out, I was still somewhat skinny but now that I’m 25 I keep losing weight again. I’m back at my 16.9 bmi and I’m pretty stoked about it. And yes it’s always family that keeps commenting about me being scrawny. The sad thing is their comments about my body are much less vicious now than the ones I received as a teen. I can eat shitty junk food without them getting mean about it
Anyway I drastically lost some weight until I was visibly sick and underweight, a couple of teachers tried to talk to me about it too but then I kept gaining and losing the same weight. I got so much better after moving out, I was still somewhat skinny but now that I’m 25 I keep losing weight again. I’m back at my 16.9 bmi and I’m pretty stoked about it. And yes it’s always family that keeps commenting about me being scrawny. The sad thing is their comments about my body are much less vicious now than the ones I received as a teen. I can eat shitty junk food without them getting mean about it
It sucks so much that one of my colleagues always tells me I have to eat more or makes comments about my body. In front of all the others!!! And I'm still NOT underweight!!!!!
It fu*ks up, so I don't want to go into the kitchen (at work) anymore.
My plan is to make coffee at home and take it to work so I haven't leave the lab.
Hoping to see her as little as possible.
I'm glad that nobody else make comments about my weightless.
It fu*ks up, so I don't want to go into the kitchen (at work) anymore.
My plan is to make coffee at home and take it to work so I haven't leave the lab.
Hoping to see her as little as possible.
I'm glad that nobody else make comments about my weightless.
not my weight directly but i was cooking with this group of people today and heating up rice in a very small pan so i was like "do you think this is enough for us" to one of them and he was like "yeah, its more than anything you had combined in the past few days" made me laff but its also a pretty strange feeling because i wouldnt have thought anyone was paying attention to my portion sizes. same guy made a joke about me not taking too much food when i put two cheese grape skewers on my plate from yesterdays buffet. so i think its more validating than anything and doesnt bother me but i can see how comments like you look anorexic and such can be triggering as hell especially when you dont feel that way
my mom is pretty skinny but she always says "oh I wish I had your flat stomach" and I'm like ☠ want to starve myself even more
At first I was fine with it, but now it makes me self conscious because it's starting to become more and more. It's more with my wife, she's been comparing my body with hers. She's heavier, but she's been trying really hard to lose weight as well, but she's type 1 diabetic so she has to keep her sugars in check so it'll be a bit harder for her.
I don't like people commenting on my body or weight loss at all...it draws too much attention and it's awkward AF to stand there and shrug or something.
The scale is the only validation my head will believe anyway so the comments are just unnecessarily uncomfortable to me
The scale is the only validation my head will believe anyway so the comments are just unnecessarily uncomfortable to me
I love telling these stories on this forum, so I'll happily tell them again lol (but the abridged versions). They made me really uncomfortable obviously, but looking back I just cringe at these situations and laugh at them. They're so absurd.
- Last job, went up to an older man in his 60s to ask if he needed assistance. I didn't get a word out before he pointed at me and yelled "You! How much do you weigh?! ...90 pounds?!" I kept trying to kill the conversion but he went on for about 25 minutes, talking about how "sexy" skinny women are, how his ex-wife was incredibly thin, how skinny women have so much power over men (I'm a lesbian lol) while pointing to my boobs/genitals and saying "THOSE give you control over men. Don't forget that." Just a lot of rambling about how attractive he finds thin women.
- Went on a date with a guy (pre-finding out I'm lesbian). In his car, he kept asking how much I weighed and how I would "blow over in the wind" and how he could pick me up.
- New coworker that I'd only known for about an hour started asking about my weight, asking how much I eat, then going "yeah I relate I don't eat anything either!" He later tried mercilessly to hit on me, didn't believe I was a lesbian, and asked if he would be "the man that changes my sexuality" and I reported him and got him fired lol.
- Random, more forgettable comments from strangers or family friends about how small I am, asking what I eat, telling me they're so jealous, more comments about picking me up.
- And then obviously the incessant comments from family and friends about my body and weight. Just the typical, never ending ones. It's always a topic of conversation no matter where I go.
Not sure if this is from my autism, my anorexia, or both, but I’m pretty sure I’m 100% uncomfortable with comments from people 100% of the time 🫠
All the ladies in my college course keep commenting on my body how thin I am etc (they are all middle aged women, I’m 22). I was eating normal at the start of the course and now I’ve relapsed because of all the comments. It’s triggering when people directly comment on my weight/ body size. My mum told me my legs are like sticks and I genuinely was about to cry because it felt like an attack- I wasn’t restricting at the time it was just my body. I am naturally thin so I get those comments a lot.
kinda depends. if it's a compliment i love it. i'm not so thin that people are frightened yet.
but since i used to be fat and i lost a lot of weight really quickly, people i know, mostly family members, all comment with the most uncomfortable shit. my aunt asked me, "you've lost so much weight so fast! you do eat, right?" in front of my cousins, who are children. what the hell did she think i was gonna say? "no"? it's just incredibly awkward.
but since i used to be fat and i lost a lot of weight really quickly, people i know, mostly family members, all comment with the most uncomfortable shit. my aunt asked me, "you've lost so much weight so fast! you do eat, right?" in front of my cousins, who are children. what the hell did she think i was gonna say? "no"? it's just incredibly awkward.
yes. it makes me uncomfortable because i dislike having my weight commented on in general, and also because i've never been congratulated, i've only ever been met with worry or neutrality from people in my life.
In my experience, everyone that comments is just doing so to feel better about themselves. If they voice concern, they’re gaining a reputation of being “a good friend” who’s “always there for you.” It’s all for their own ego.
In reality, they won’t be. People say they want to support you, but they won’t be there when you need it. EDs are a solo sport.
In reality, they won’t be. People say they want to support you, but they won’t be there when you need it. EDs are a solo sport.
at first it was almost euphoric to hear it from people, now it severely pisses me off and makes me uncomfortable. i'd like for people to just shut up and not comment on it at all. why does my appearance matter to anybody else? last weekend, my boss said to me "when you come back after a month, you better have gained weight" (im out of the city for a month bc of school). and he was talking to other ppl at work about my weight, and honestly it was just too much. im a pushover so i was just standing there smiling like nothing was wrong but like just shut the fuck up thanks.
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